Well, here I get to tick everyone off at me again. Yippee. Boy, I must love being hated. Either that or I just stick to my guns whether others like it or not. Yeah, it’s the second one.
I’m not a bigot, so let’s just get that out there. Now, the obligatory “I have gay friends so that means I’m not homophobic.” Seriously, I do. But, it’s kind of a dumb thing to say. I don’t know why. It feels the same as saying “I have black friends so that means I’m not racist.” But really, I don’t dislike gay people for being gay. I dislike gay marriage for real reasons. And guess what…it’s actually intolerant to call people names and demonize them for having a different view than you. This is honestly a really tough issue for Christians today. We don’t want people to think we are hateful! It is painful to be so misunderstood. Please read my side of the story and agree or disagree, there is no reason for you to call names or hate me. Mature, civilized discussion is always more productive but it seems like most who disagree with me just shut me out or ignore me. I kind of don’t get to the point until the end, so hang with me.
The secular left are brilliant at stigmatizing the mainstream, traditional beliefs of moderate people and peer pressuring them into believing they are hateful extremists who should change. Or at least scaring them into not standing up for their own beliefs. But Christians, please do not let a fear of men overpower a fear of God’s Word.
One result of leftist aggression combined with Christian silence (or laziness or self-centeredness- not sure which) is abortion on demand. Soon another result will be gay marriage. I know that I will be on the wrong side of history on this. But I’m cool with that because I will still be on the right side of right. I hate to be a fatalist, but it’s pretty apparent that gay marriage is coming. But, before it does, I just want to let everybody know why I’m against it, not just that I am.
I know you have a right to disagree with me on this issue. That’s totally fine. I know that supporting gay marriage seems like the nice thing to do on the surface. I know it seems like it won’t affect others (“Don’t like gay marriage? Don’t get gay-married.” ) However, there are a lot of deeper consequences that many have not considered. I’m not here to change your mind. I’m just here to explain my position with really real reasons because many who oppose gay marriage are just opposing it without telling others why. And that’s always a bad idea, my friends.
Before you get your panties in a wad (too late?) I am not saying that homosexuality is a choice. I won’t argue about that because I don’t know what it feels like. I don’t doubt at all that people could be born with (or develop early on) homosexual tendencies. And, I have sympathy for that because I know it is difficult to come to terms with for most. Truly. But, homosexual activity is a choice. Just like all the sins I’ve committed have been a choice. And my sins are not lesser sins. So, if you were born homosexual and you want to act on that, then I would agree that you can do so. I do not advocate outlawing everything the Bible calls sin. (Everyone knows how to Google for all the Bible verses condemning homosexuality, right?) I know many people don’t believe the Bible and I agree that they should not be legally forced to follow its instruction. Should there be a law against lying? Against envy? Obviously not. So, I’m not saying that gays shouldn’t be allowed to be gay. But to redefine marriage is something totally different.
Marriage is a legally-recognized romantic union between a man and a woman established by God. It truly is a Christian institution designed for the mutual benefit of the couple and for pro-creation (or the adoption of children). Now, are there plenty of non-Christian married couples? Of course. So, why did they decide to get married? My guess would be because the State (and insurance companies, financial institutions, etc.) bestow benefits for having that legal document (and because of societal pressures which are probably becoming less and less). Why does the state do that? Because it makes for a more stable and productive society to have committed couples raising children together (Obviously with our divorce rate, we are sucking at this but that doesn’t mean we should condemn marriage. It means we should do better at it.). Now, we can argue all day about whether or not it’s any of the State’s business if we’ve made a commitment before God and man to stay together, but that would be pointless because they aren’t going to get out of it, either way. But, if homosexual marriage is legal, then the definition of marriage totally changes. It starts to mean a legally-recognized romantic union between consenting adults, right? Doesn’t that open up the door for a whole lot of other things to be called marriage? So, at what point is marriage so diluted that it really means nothing at all?
(Sidebar: I think one problem we have with marriage being taken too lightly is that many pastors are just marrying anyone who can pay for their services instead of really helping the couple to realize what they are promising and making judgements as to whether they can do it or not. Personally, I think preachers should refuse to marry couples who they, with much prayer, believe are not prepared for marriage- mainly because I’m a divorcee and wish my preacher would’ve refused to marry an obviously doomed, young and stupid couple! haha but enough about my white trash past… Also, for it to be a Christian institution, I don’t think Justices of the Peace should be preforming marriages on the fly.)
I borrowed this whole section from here: “By legalizing same-sex “marriage,” the State becomes its official and active promoter. The State calls on public officials to officiate at the new civil ceremony, orders public schools to teach its acceptability to children, and punishes any state employee who expresses disapproval.
In the private sphere, objecting parents will see their children exposed more than ever to this new “morality,” businesses offering wedding services will be forced to provide them for same-sex unions, and rental property owners will have to agree to accept same-sex couples as tenants.
In every situation where marriage affects society, the State will expect Christians and all people of good will to betray their consciences by condoning, through silence or act, an attack on the natural order and Christian morality.”
So, you see, if this becomes legal, citizens will not be allowed to oppose it on moral grounds. And that’s not freedom, y’all. Not at all!
Now, if the State is going to bestow benefits (or allow companies to do so) based on marital status, then no, it’s not fair for homosexuals (or non-Christians or polygamists or whatever) to be excluded from receiving those benefits. So, that is why I am not against the idea of a civil union. This way, people could have the choice of being in a church-recognized marriage or in a secular civil union. Both would have the same legal status. Now, what’s wrong with that (plenty, I’m sure, since I thought this up in my own feeble brain)?
We are hearing the word “equality” a lot right now. But, really, the law is equal. Anyone can marry anyone else of the opposite sex. So, we aren’t lacking equality, but we may be lacking choice.
Okay, the kiddo is waking up so I gotta go, but here are a few links that say kind of the same thing but probably better.
Thanks for reading, friends.